ARE YOU A SOMEDAY SPEAKER?

Often, when people learn I’m a speaker’s coach, they say to me, "I'd really like to be a better speaker."

     "Great!" I always respond. "How can I help you?"

     "Oh, well,” they often reply. “I'm doing all right at the moment, I'd like to speak better, but I've got other things I have to take care of first. But someday I'd really like to talk to you about it." 

     Are you a Someday Speaker? Are you a Someday Book Author, Article Writer, Workshop Presenter, or... you name it, there's probably something connected to your business that you fully intend to do "Someday". 

     What are you waiting for? Ask yourself honestly: is Someday really ever going to come? 

     Why not? What's holding you back? Who's the gremlin that's whispering in your ear, "You're doing okay the way you are. It's too much effort. Why bother?"

     The gremlin has a name: Procrastination. And most of us are experts at it.

What makes us procrastinate, anyway? Is it fear of the unknown? Taking a risk? Making a mistake? Feeling ridiculous or humiliated? 

     If it's not fear, is it simply lack of knowledge? Not knowing what steps to take? Not having enough information? Not knowing who to ask, where to find the appropriate research? 

     Sometimes procrastination hides a secret anxiety.  What if we become really good at the thing we've been avoiding? Will it change our relationship with the people we're closest to or care most about? They might be jealous of our success or unhappy that we don't have as much time to spend with them as we used to. We'll be moving in new circles they may not feel comfortable in. The effect our success might have on the ones we love is often a secret anxiety we don't even know exists.

     What does it take to end our love affair with procrastination?

     Look hard at yourself in the mirror and ask, "Why don't I want to do the thing I need to do to be the speaker I want to be? Why don't I want to do what it takes to be attractive to more clients?" 

     Listen to whatever comes up in answer to that question. Write it down! Make as long a list as you need. Is it fear of being really good or not being good enough? Is it fear of asking for help or not getting the right help? Is it a belief about yourself and your place in your family, your work, or your world that will be irrevocably altered if you take the big step forward? Will that alteration be good or bad?

 Then get the help you need to deal with what you've learned. Talk to a trusted friend or professional coach. Go online and ask the questions your clients might ask. Hire someone with the expertise you need to help you get the job done. You never have to struggle all alone. Whatever you need, help is out there. You only have to ask for it.

     Let me help you become a unique and sexy speaker as quickly and painlessly as possible. Let's end your procrastination together!